This week one of my kiddos learned about consequences. It totally sucked. This kid missed a deadline and as a result received a pretty (in my opinion) severe consequence. My child was upset and is still pretty devastated.
Guess what I did.
No phone calls, no arguing on this kid’s behalf…nothing.
I’m so over parents fixing problems for their children. My kid screwed up and has to pay the price. In the scheme of things, it’s so not a big deal even though – at the moment – it seems like the end of the world. Anguish and heartbreak over this issue will pass. No one was injured – other than some possible pride – no damage was done. In fact, I’m almost glad it happened. My kid was upset about missing the deadline – more so than the consequence itself. To me that speaks to this kid’s character and this experience will reinforce the things this child values. If one is to mess up, messing up when you’re a kid is the time to do it.
THE TIME TO LEARN.
How are our children supposed to learn anything if every time they drop the ball mommy and daddy run in and fix it for them? I understand that there are times when intervention is needed and required. But when rules are broken, bent even, and consequences are applied, it’s practice for life. As an adult, if you miss a deadline for a project there will be fallout. If you don’t pay a bill, there’s a penalty. At university if you don’t turn in an assignment on time, a note from mom and dad will not fix the issue. Why not get back to teaching our kids that rules are rules. And they apply to all.
Before you go all crazy on me, I understand there are times when advocating for your child is necessary. I’ve recently experienced this situation as well. My point today is that not EVERY situation requires intervention. We want to grow responsible, compassionate humans. Failing is part of growing.
I let my kid grow.
PERFECT FOR SNOWBOARDING!
So…yeah – this is a post about our first family adventure of the winter season. We all
attempted went snowboarding together.
Now…let’s think about this for a moment, shall we? Other than Eldest Spawn – who is proficient and able to go down hills I have nightmares about – and myself – and I broke my wrist the one time I went – none of the family has been on boards before.
Littlest Spawn is 5 and Second Eldest Female Spawn is 7. This alone should tell you how much snowboarding I got done. They did great! LS got both feet in her bindings (the thing holding your feet to the board – you strap them and then you’re stuck to your board) and so did SEF – they really did well – they got pretty tired but kept on trucking on…and got to the top of the mini hill by Evil Mama hauling their strapped in bindings selves up. Eldest Female Spawn hit the hills shredding – she did fabulously and gained a lot of confidence.
Dr. Evil watched SnowProfessor and really got the hang of it quickly.
I got a board with a different sort of bindings than the rest of the family. Not on purpose. However, when you’re the rookie I am, the size I am, and the age I am…they are sort of hard to get on. While on a hill. That goes down. While not falling on your arse. With your arse then flying over your head.
Wish me luck!!!! Please. I need it!
EJ out – to get the clothes out of the dryer so we can return to Afton today!!!
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(sources : www.snowprofessor.com, www.aftonalps.com, www.wikipedia.com)
Evil Joy here – quick short post for once…
Littlest Spawn is following the Evil Advanced Track. Exponential Learning Occuring. Yikes.
Eldest Spawn arrived home from middle school to find Evil Joy and Littlest Spawn on the trampoline. He joined in the bouncing fun. Devolved into a tickling match.
Littlest Spawn grabbed Eldest Spawn’s Evil Nasty Feet and ripped off the most Evil Nasty Socks.
And proceeded to :
SHOVE THEM IN HIS FACE AND GIGGLED “Smell this nastiness Big Brother!”
Eldest Spawn and Evil Joy were equally grossed out and impressed by her quick thinking!
Yikes. Maybe need to attend Mass more than once a week with this little one….
Evil Joy out – to save the world from Littlest Spawn.