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Double Dip…Stigma Fighters and Use Your Words

Today I’m double dipping.  I’ve got a post up that is important to me.

Not knowing exactly when it was going up ….. I also committed to Use Your Words.

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So today…I’m integrating these two.


You’re going to find highlights (and low points) of my ‘story’ today on a post at Old School/New School Mom in a series she has called Stigma Fighters.  I realize I’m sharing a very intimate part of my life with complete strangers. But that’s what fighting stigma is about.

When you deal with mental health issues, if feels as though your mind is broken.  And there is stigma associated with admitting there’s a problem.  It doesn’t make you a weak person.  It doesn’t make you a loser.  In fact, when you seek help it shows the world just how strong you can be.  And maybe, just maybe, you’ll give another the courage to do the same.  It could mean the difference between life and death.

You deal with your health issues when they seem simple – like a cold or a sprained ankle.  Why should keeping your mind healthy be any different?  Realizing you need help is hard.  I didn’t see it when I was in the thick of the worst.  It took Dr. Evil telling me something was wrong after I had my second child and a minor car accident.  My reaction was over the top.  Way over the top.

But I sought help.  And over the years I’ve learned to follow my instincts when I sense I’m not on a good path.   And I’ve learned to deal with many of the issues that cause me to trigger.

At the end of the day….I’m a happy, healthy person.  And I can say that now because I’m dealing with my demons.  I have issues, but who doesn’t?

And now….I’m working to break the stigma.   Check out the post over at Old School/New School Mom.


Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.

I’m using:               Highlights, complete stranger, mind, and follow your instincts

They were submitted by:          Confessions of a part-time working mom


YOU MUST READ her blog!  And all of the others!  I have SPOKEN.  And I’m the all powerful EVIL JOY.  Do as I command….or I’ll go EVIL ON YOUR ARSE.

(I had to throw that in….I’m normally sort of a cheeky blogger who is more humorous than serious…..don’t want people to miss that side of me!!!)



Links to the other “Use Your Words” posts:

http://bakinginatornado.com                       Baking In A Tornado

http://batteredhope.blogspot.com                Battered Hope

http://thethreegerbers.blogspot.ch/              Confessions of a part-time working mom

http://www.someoneelsesgenius.com            Someone Else’s Genius

http://fbxadventures.blogspot.com                 FBX Adventures (In Parenting)

http://spatulasonparade.blogspot.com/            Spatulas on Parade

http://stacysewsandschools.blogspot.com/        Stacy Sews and Schools

http://www.outmannedmommy.com                 Outmanned

http://www.eviljoyspeaks.wordpress.com           Evil Joy Speaks

http://www.healingtomato.com                        Healing Tomato

http://themomisodes.com                           The Momisodes
http://www.JuiceboxConfession.com              Juicebox Confession


  1. I applaud you for sharing. I have lived where you live. You did a great job of using your words and sharing your emotion. Sometimes we use humor to cover the pain — I am glad you spoke out.

    Carol @ Battered Hope

    • It’s so much easier to be funny than real. And sometimes funny and real. And then…there’s the times when you just have to be real. And it’s hard. But there’s light at the end of the tunnel and my tunnel isn’t dark anymore. Thanks for your kind words Carol and hugs to you today and always.

  2. You did an amazing job of writing your challenge post and promoting your cause. I applaud your bravery, determination and honesty.

    • Karen – you are an amazing individual. I am so thankful I’ve been able to be part of your writing challenges for the last year or so. I cannot count the number of times I’ve contacted you and you’ve always been so helpful and supportive. You work so hard I want the world to know that!!! Thank you for all you do!

  3. I am honored that you used my words to tell your story! Thank you for not one but two amazing posts!
    I hope you don’t feel about us blogger friends as complete strangers but were just using your words 😉

  4. Nice way to blend the two topics. Mental illness is not seen the way it was 50 years ago but it is still hard to share. Thank you for doing so.

    • It’s funny you mention the generational difference in how mental health is viewed. I know some will judge and some will talk. Some will insist I just need to suck it up or get over it. But I hope that sharing will advance the work of breaking the stigma associated with mental health.

  5. I hate stigmas. I don’t understand their purpose. I wear my mental illness out there where the whole world can see. I’m not ashamed. It’s part of who I am. I’m glad that you are putting yours out there from everyone to see, too.

    We are not alone. 🙂

    • We are not alone. And I am proud to say I put it out there. Terrified too. But that’s okay. Can’t grow by staying safe. I want to grow as a person I hope this is a step in the right direction!!!


  6. What a great way to use this prompt as a platform! Awesome job!

    • I hadn’t really thought of it that way – but that makes me happy!!! I sometimes forget why I even started blogging – because I was making fun of my comatose husband’s facial hair. Who does that?!?! Someone who is going to make it through to the other side of things! Thanks for commenting Sarah!!!

  7. Thank you for sharing this wonderful story. It takes courage to put out your soul for all to judge! Great use of your words too.

    • I hope I’m judged with compassion. I think showing a raw side of me may lose me some people, but hopefully keep or gain the right friends! Thanks again!!

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