Yesterday I read something that made me feel physically ill. I quickly reposted on Facebook. Then I saw a tweet from a mama asking me if what I posted was real. I usually check things out right away. This time I was so enraged, I simply hit ‘repost’ and was appalled.
I was praying it was fake. I was praying I was going to owe this awesome mama an apology. She has a four-year old son who verbalizes in the same way as this young man. She was livid. I was absolutely hoping I’d owe her the biggest apology….
Nope. It was real.
A most hateful woman wrote this disgusting letter and delivered it an autistic boy’s family. Suggesting they euthanize their son and they should take “whatever non retarded body parts he possesses and donate it to science.”
My first response was anger. And not anger – but hell filled hate. Boiling rage. Then…
I felt sick. How many people were going to be affected by this? How would his family ever get one evil person’s words out of their heads?
I decided. Screw this. This angry sad person is not going to have the last word.
Let’s take this letter and use it for good. Let’s use it to educate people about ASD – Autism Spectrum Disorders – we can spread knowledge and love.
My children are not autistic. I cannot possibly understand what parents of an autistic child deal with day in an day out. What I can do is be there for them – in whatever way they need. In this case, I hope I can bring a little peace into a sometimes chaotic world by trying to spread knowledge – not hate.
Today on Facebook the post of the Dalai Lama read, “If someone behaves negatively towards you, it helps to remember that he or she is a human being like you and to distinguish between an action and the person who does it. If counter measures are needed to prevent someone doing harm, it’s always better to do it with a calm rather than an agitated mind. If you act out of anger, the best part of your brain fails to function. Remember, compassion is not a sign of weakness.”
While I am not the point of feeling compassion for the woman who wrote and delivered this letter, approaching this blog post with a calmer mind and heart is a positive step. Counter measures to me in this instance are to ask others to be aware. Aware of their words, their actions, and their IMPACT on others.
What impact are you making today?