By definition Feminism :
1. the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men.
2. (sometimes initial capital letter) an organized movement for the attainment of such rights for women. ”
Source : Dictionary.com.
Nowhere in the definition of the word feminism does the idea of one gender being better than another gender play out. Emma Watson spoke as a Goodwill Ambassador for UN Women to the UN General Assembly last week about feminism and how we need to stop equating feminism with man-hating or man-bashing.
I couldn’t agree more. And why not start here? At my lair? With my spawn?
I’ve been guilty of terming some of the chores I do as “Mom Jobs” and others as “Dad Jobs” while in reality we both do all the jobs as needed. I mow the lawn. He’s been known to do laundry. I don’t worry about him handling our spawn while I head out for a night on the town with friends. He’s half of the parenting structure of our family. I’m the other half. Neither is more important than the other. Given our work schedules some jobs do fall to one or the other of us on occasion. That doesn’t mean I expect him to take out the garbage anymore than he expects me to have dinner ready when he gets home. We. Are. Equals.
We openly joke around our spawn. We tease. But we set the example of being a parent…not being Mom or Dad. Dad pulls teeth and reads bedtime stories. Mom sends spawn to Dad to deal with teeth and then reads bedtime stories. (Yea, I know..teeth – my personal kryptonite…I’m a weenie in the teeth department.) I love to clean….well I love to have things tidy. Dr. Evil loves to cook. We work well together – he cooks, I clean up. And we equally involve our spawn. The Eldest is a boy – he gets to mow the lawn because he’s old enough. As soon as Eldest FEMALE Spawn is a bit older and a bit taller she will also participate in this chore. All spawn gather the poop of pups in this lair.
My spawn know I worked in a male dominated job before staying home to be Mom. They know I trained mostly men and worked with mostly men. They also know I respected and was respected by my co-workers. They ask about what I did and aren’t focused on the fact I trained on equipment that, at that time, women were not trained on.
I hope by showing our children we are each capable parents and even stronger as a team that they will learn to view people for their qualities and personalities…not their gender. Equality is a hard fought battle…maybe a little more easily won if we all start with examples at home. We can teach our children to go into the world and expect equality. They will find inequality and know they must work for change. To make it right.
SO…..here’s to an awesome weekend full of sun and fun. Fall colors have arrived to Wisconsin…along with 80 degree temperatures. Planning on getting out to enjoy it while we can! Because…”winter is coming”…… And that means…..snowboarding. CAN’T WAIT!
EJ out – to watch the Homecoming Football Game!